the woman I wanna marry must be a Virgin!

the Exclamation mark in the title above , is only for those who live a western type of life , and who usually don't believe in God , or they are just putting their ethics on the shelf .

Cause even if you don't want to consider this matter religiously you should consider it
Ethically ,do you agree for your daughter to do love with someone whom you don't know
even if she is in her legal age , I know it's her choice , but in this she would be loathed and considered ultra-liberal ,

Even if the community and the family are not Implying any pressure , this thing has a lot of later on complications , for example , bearing an Illegal child , which nobody will be responsible for , or getting some STD's or other diseases that's usually hard to cure, and make her life miserable if she wont find anybody to support her financially and psychologically especially if she's still a teenager

This is one the perils of the western societies , that breaks up the family and creates distant people of no connection in between , Individuals who wants to lead a purely Individual life
and this is what the captilasim is looking for , you should everything by your own dont lend or share anything

I have discussed this matter with some people of western background , they don't have any problem , if their wife has previous physical love experience , and they say that would be better
for you cause you wont require to teach her how to do this or that !! , for me I can't somenthing like this , it's not ethical nor religious

Virginity as per the dictionary (wordweb) means: A person who has never had sex
and usually people do agree that sex means here an Intercourse , but the problem
is that the man or the woman can have sex without being able to detect or to examine
like for example the oral one or the other types that don't include penetration to the vagina
in this case they are clinically considered virgin which defies the logic , so the definition could be rewrote here : It's the desire and the act of having an Intimate closeup bodily relation between two people usually from different sexes .

But this definition loses it's meaning when it comes to legal matters cause legally you have to be able to proof what the other claims against you , or have a tangible evidence like a video footage

so the best thing is to be true to ourselves , and lead a life of purity and transparency so that people and community and the family and most Importantly yourself can be satisfied about your life.

I'm either a dumb or a Genius or just mad I Don't know!!

To be frank , I'm really shocked by what's Happening in Iraq

Natural disasters are far more mercy than what's happening there

of daily bloodshed of Innocent people ,this really unbearable and catastrophic

for a nation that's now teared and thrown into the tunnels of the unknown , there's

no foreseeable end for it , and even if it ended , Iraqi people now are emigrating their countries in big numbers , even more than the Palestinians and creating their

new life outside their homeland , which would never have a future in the near horizon

and all of this was created by the greed for Oil , and the dominance over it's sources
not by the Iraqi dreams to be a nuclear country , or It's possession of some weapons
that's decribed under the title of unconventional , or mass destruction , which were never found and will never be .
If Saddam was bad to his people then what's happening now for almost 5 years is considered worst in the History of Iraq if not the whole world
Democracy couldn't be brought over tank tops or instilled by Missiles , It's a natural process that could be hastened and it must be brewn Insitu .

But even democracy is not the aim , The real aim is to have the whole middle-east
Political zone reconstructed to fit the new ambitions of the big countries .

People's fate in the region is blown by the wind of change, the Wind coming from
the west ...
Peace is a mere tablet of Analgesic that stopped giving any effect !!

The joy of reading:Why arabs dont read !

Arabs simply don't read cause do they don't believe in reading , they just want to Read

for studying and Graduating , from schools and universities , they just read if they do

the Gossip magazines , and the Tabloid news-papers , or the Holy books cause the other

Books are waste of time!!

They don't know that reading is the essence of a healthy mind , stop reading like

stop exercising , your mind will be timid and dull , and will be clouded by strange

thoughts and fake Ideas looming in the darkness of negligence

Other problem is that , the Arab reader should overcome is the ability to read and write and understand what he is reading not only in his mother tongue but in at least
English language cause it is the most popular language in which you can find books to read , Arabs don't translate and if they do , the translated book won't be of the same quality and attractiveness .

Other obstacle is the price , which is not a real problem , if there is a will
to read , Books could be found like copied CD's and DVD's everywhere and if the
cost of printing is high let the Chinese do it for us , they have the raw materials
people , and they may be able to write and read in Arabic better than us...!

Reading is a skill that should be honed from early stage , so that it grows to be a natural habit , not a burden , as if it's a task that should be accomplished it must be done for the love of reading , and joy of Knowledge otherwise don't bother .

The problem why Arabs don't read is a complicated problem but the main problem is the dominance of the religious thought and books , which is always on demand for print cause they could be easily find their way in the market , other titles are considered
a risk for the publisher, which is really pathetic .

all the Arabs might not read the number of books published by one publishing house in Europe, really shame on Arabs .

According to UNESCO Arabs read annually an average of no more than 7 minutes !!
some might feel this exaggerated, of course should not Include magazines , newspapers
and other publications that don't add any value to your mind, Is this number alarming
enough to let us wake up and start taking actions toward this big Gap , between us and the other advanced countries.

Marriage of different Cultures

The marriage of different races and religions in my Opinion is not constructive but it usually leads to

a confused results , that never give a concrete outcome , the result is a mutant

rather than a Hybrid , yes right we are all Humans and we can forgive and develop

but if we forgive our community wont do the same , and that create confused offsprings

in this case somebody has to give in his beliefs for the sake of love and harmony with

the other , other problem that arise is the family acceptance from both sides ,especially if the family is a well connected one .

one of the films that I enjoyed watching , and expressed this Idea was "Sabah a love story" , an Arabic Syrian Muslim Girl whom she fell in love with a Canadian born Stephen , they both struggle till they find the definite solution for their dilemma

The final key to their dilemma was their family acceptance which granted all
peace and harmony.

It might be similar also to the other nice movie , "My big fat Greek wedding" that
discusses also the same Idea from a different perspective .